Frankly, the telephone call at one in the morning should have tipped me off that my day or dentist appointment would hold a glitch. Yes, one a.m., as in after midnight, calling from a restricted number.
If the call to my cell had not been from a restricted number, I might have thought twice about answering.
If the young lady had not sounded so very professional when saying the words ‘to confirm your appointment’ I might not have listened further.
If I did not have an appointment that had not yet been confirmed, the upcoming one at eight in the morning for my dental work, I might not have listened.
If the message had not been so well timed with the punch line toward the end of the professional notice, I might not have listened.
If the message was about anything other than an appointment verification for dog poo clearing, I might not have laughed later. The Dog Poo Company confirming a three in the afternoon schedule to clean up all the dog poo in my yard.
If I had thought it was at all funny in the moment, I might not have dialed in her ear. And I did. Dial in her ear. Next time I will use my megaphone siren.
Wrong day, right time.
More ‘if only’ thoughts…
- If I had not skipped the Renee Zellweger movie after the holiday dinner the night before in order to get to sleep early enough.
- If the appointment did not require rising at four thirty in the morning on the fourth to the shortest day of the year.
- If it had not been snowing little icy flakes for three days.
- If I had not chosen the wrong door for my drop off and had to cross the icy parking lot to the right building.
- If Hubby had not gone on many errands so I had to await his return.
- If the staff scheduler, who was willing to work me in the dentist’s schedule, had not said it would take one to three hours to maybe get me in a chair.
- If only one person in that waiting room had empathy with my predicament. You know how it is when a herd of cows are grazing and one falls over dead? Well, maybe you don’t. The rest of the herd just keeps doing what they were doing even though they lived their entire lives with the now deceased cow. That is how detached a waiting room of patients can act when someone just might get in front of them in schedule, especially if the intruder is there on the wrong day.
- If I had not skipped my coffee and breakfast and had to sit there for an hour.
- If I had not arranged my entire day to spend the wrong morning with the dentist.
- If hubby were not on three to eleven shift.
- If we did not have to do this again the next morning…..
Then perhaps acceptance would be easier to come by. Right?
My daughter was discussing acceptance with me a few days ago. Just accepting that, for example, the eggs are over hard instead of over easy when over easy and dippy was the way I ordered them. Enjoy and really accept over hard eggs with no runny yolk. Fake it until you make it.
But if one has enough days like this one of being on time for the dentist on the wrong day – and has been served dozens and dozens of over hard eggs in their life, then acceptance is an elusive, difficult choice. Especially when age fifty-three and rising.
Now, my daughter is wise. But because she is less than half my age she is also still wide-eyed as she teaches me to accept just like I tried to teach her to accept life. I taught her that this too shall pass, that keep it simple silly was the best thing she could do, that when one door closes then another one opens. I taught her that acceptance is a key to all life’s problems.
So now that I am buggered with irritation and racked with should’ve, would’ve, could haves… now she will remind me. Then one day, when she has had enough over hard eggs with no runny yolk for her toast, and when finally I, on the other hand, have given up entirely in trying to get anything to be my way – especially my eggs – then I will remind her of the ease of a life with complete and total acceptance.
I will remember then the sunshine that does come out of days like this.
If I had not had a morning of being on time for a dentist appointment I did not have then I would not have had a wonderful breakfast with Hubby and his sister, she who rescued me from the dentist office. I would never have had time for five cups of holiday coffee or to enjoy her Christmas tree with all the unique ornaments.
I know I have probably said this far too often, but once again, this blog would not have been so easy to write, if I had been at the dentist on the right day.
Essa Adams is the author of ‘A Breath Floats By’ .
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